Wednesday, January 25, 2012

411 on Sleep (journaling in depth)


(If you want the short story: I am ready for Lola to be able to sleep in her own bed, Lola and I are working hard to make this happen and keep everyone happy and as sane as possible. We are doing a good job.  Have high hopes everything will be where it needs to be by the time baby arrives.)

Note to self: If you get tempted to co-sleep with this next sweet baby, then read this.

With 10 weeks left of my pregnancy I know that the time is now to help Lola learn to finally sleep by herself.  Oh boy, was I scared to start this process but more than scared, really ready actually.  I know- it’s hard to believe after almost 3 years I would be ready to have my bed back and my space while I sleep.  (no co-sleeping in the future with anymore babies. ever.  sorry kids.  it’s for your own good.) I was pretty stern with Clay and Lola about the seriousness of coming up with a realistic game plan and sticking to it.  I have learned after 2.5 years that consistency is key.  I know everyone says that, but it’s true.  They both knew I meant business. I ordered a book, which I am currently reading, that is a no-cry sleep solution book for toddlers and preschoolers- not babies.  Hooray!  (For those that will, go ahead and make fun of me—but I highly recommend the book.) I have enjoyed it and it’s a great guide and encouragement that I am not alone and Lola is not unusual.  It has helped me stay consistent and cope.  (Laughing)

So first step to better sleep for everyone was preparing Lola… for like a month.  Every day we talked about how mommy needs to sleep in bed with daddy and Lola needs to sleep in her bed and the baby will sleep in his/her bed.  Everyone in their own room.  We talked about how Caillou sleeps in his big boy bed and every time we read a book or saw a cartoon where a child was being tucked in and then left to fall asleep how that was a good thing and everyone was happy.  So a month went by and by the end of the month, she knew her time was coming.  It was actually very helpful.

Next line of business was Lola and I off to shop- at the mattress store.  So, Clay and I have a Tempurpedic mattress and I LOVE it and Lola has slept on it since she was 3 days old.  Seriously.  So why would she feel comfortable on her mattress which is soft and lumpy when she has slept on our firm mattress all her life.  She knew immediately when she was in her bed versus ours.  So we went to look and she laid on several and we made a big, FUN deal out of picking her out the perfect mattress.  She really, really loved this for some reason.  So we picked one that was like ours and with Daddy’s permission took the expensive gamble that it would help.  I was convinced it would make a difference.  No one could talk me down from it.  I think Clay knew that.  Haha- he might have thought it didn’t matter… but now we both have realized it does seem to make a good amount of difference.  Fabulous news.  Investment is paying off.  Funny story about the mattress shopping- when we got in the car I told Lola they would deliver her mattress on Saturday and how fun it would be.  We would fix pancakes and clean her room and get ready for her new bed… she was so excited and couldn’t wait… but then got a real worried look and asked “But momma, will you get sheets for me?”  Hahaha!  You know how the mattresses at the store have no sheets!  I guess she was worried she wouldn’t at home either!  Love my smarty pants girl.  004

[Picture to right is Pajama Day at school last week.]

So once we got the new mattress, her old mattress went on the floor where I would be/am sleeping on during the night.  So we tuck her in at 7 p.m. with the same routine that has worked for awhile with her.  Either Clay or I do it.  She eats dinner, gets a bath, brushes teeth, goes potty and kisses the parent not tucking her in goodnight and goes off to bed happily.  She quickly helps clean her room or picks out a book while one of us picks up her room.  Only a lamp is on.  We turn on Jesus Love Me real low, sit on her bed and read a short book, then kisses, light off and sit there until she falls asleep, which normally isn’t long, um 5-20 minutes.  Clay sings to her, but I try and be real quiet and just put my hand on her back.  I never lay down with her.  I try to make my presence as minimal as possible so she doesn’t wake up wanting me.  She has been doing this for a long time now and it isn’t a problem.  She sleeps good until 10 p.m. on a bad night and 12 a.m. on a good night.  Then she wakes up and basically in her sleep, wonders straight to our room and straight to me.  At that point, she only wants me.  If she finds me and lays down with me, she’s right back out every time.  If not, she’s up and really upset.  So how was I suppose to feel optimistic that this could go well??  I just decided that I was more stubborn than she was and I would win… haha- at the same time help her feel safe, loved, confident, etc…


I knew that the old mattress on the floor would help me stick to my guns and not lay down with her during the middle of the night because I could be comfortable but by her all night.  So the mattress proved to be paying off because she has been waking up typically later, around 1 a.m.  At first she cried a little and would tell me she really wanted to go to my bed with me and I just kept using the word “practice” i.e. “We are practicing sleeping in here now.  Shhh… go back to sleep.  I am right here.”  And I would sit on the floor and rub her back.  Then when she was back asleep I would sleep on the floor mattress until she woke up again and repeat.  It really helps sleeping on the floor in there.  I am much more consistent this away.  This is still going on and it is true that we tend to take 2 steps forward, 1 step back- but overall… a great progress.  She knows now that I am not getting in her bed and there’s no reason to ask and she seems to be sleeping better in general. A couple of nights I have been able to sleep in my room until the early morning hours or in her room, but undisturbed because she slept through the night a lot better, waking maybe twice.  Now I am trying not to even get off the mattress and just say “I am right here Lola.  Go back to sleep.”  That does work at times.  A couple of times she has woken up in the middle of the night and stayed up for a couple hours straight because she couldn’t fall back asleep without me laying with her but I didn’t give in.  She was actually still happy because I was laying in her room or sitting next to her bed rubbing her back.  Those nights are the worst and make for a moody day, but I get it.  I am actually breaking her habit of sleeping with me and mine of sleeping with her. 

I think I will keep the floor mattress in her room a bit longer so I don’t get tempted or tired and give in and just lay down with her.  Once it goes out of her room, it will get moved to the twin bed that is in the nursery.  A point I liked in the book I am reading is to really give something time to work out and new habits to develop.  So since we all are doing well, despite it taking a legit effort every night, it is worth the time.  I can actually imagine myself being able to sleep in my own bed all night now and look forward to it… oh- I am about to have a newborn you say?  Oh yes.  Okay- who am I kidding?  It will be years before I get good night sleep in my own bed. 

So Lola has been sick this week which I thought would be a complete killer for our sleep progress, but hasn’t been too bad despite a terrible cough at night and a lot of wheezing.  (Breathing treatments were prescribed and have helped) Only one night did I lay with her- actually sat up in her bed and let her lay on my belly so she could be propped up which helped her cough settle down.  It didn’t set us back though because the next night she slept from 9 p.m. to 7 a.m. without waking me.  The best yet.  Then at 7 a.m. we snuggled.  We snuggle a lot in the morning and talk about how big she is and she tells me “I’m a pro!”  Then she wants to know if the baby is up and puts her hands and face on my big ol’ belly.  Isn’t that adorable and makes the nights worth the struggle?!

While I was writing all of this Lola comes full speed out of her room (her eyes may have been closed) and runs into the den and is saying “mommy, mommy” but runs to Clay.  So I was telling her that I was right here and she runs to my arms, I pick her up and she holds on and as fast as she can runs her hands through my hair (my hair IS her security blanket- anytime she is tired or upset or hasn’t seen me in a few hours she wants to hold my hair) and then I lay her back in bed and cover her up.  She gets comfy and is right back asleep.  Never ask to go to my bed or for me to even stay in there.  I think her prescriptions and breathing treatments have her a little jumpy making sense of tonight’s scene, but at least I can tuck her back in and come right back out.  It’s some serious progress.  I used to know that meant I HAD to go to bed too and would always sadly tell Clay goodnight since our nights were cut short.  Not anymore baby!

I am seriously proud of her.  I know I get frustrated, but I do for some reason I typically have loads of patience at night and think I really prepared her and myself well for this new and big transition.  It is so good for her.  I just need to get comfortable with the idea that she is okay and I will hear her and allow myself to go into a deep sleep in my own bed.  I don’t do that well yet because in my head I keep thinking any moment she will be waking up and I will have to go in there.  That’s the worst part. 

In the next week or so I really hope to have the mattress off her floor, in the nursery and sleeping in my bed through the night with only getting up a couple times a night.  That’s the goal. 

Guess I felt I needed to journal all this out of my system.  Sorry- if anyone actually read it. 

Nursery pictures are coming soon- I really think so.  Been busy painting, re-painting, sewing, and organizing. 10 weeks to go. Can’t wait.

Monday, January 16, 2012

Christmas Post- better late than never, ay?

My Christmas post has been a nightmare, but our Christmas experience was quite the opposite.  My sweet husband surprised me with a new computer which meant I didn’t need to research, feel guilty for replacing my one worthy of the trash can, or set it up.  Completely done.  Ah so nice.  But with that meant switching over thousands and thousands of photos, videos, documents, music, etc… since my external hard drive isn’t my friend most days, I did it with a flash drive.  Not fun.  And before I switched everything over, I went through every photo and video to delete what I didn’t want to transfer over.  I was in the perfect mood to delete 90 of a 100 same photos of Lola sitting in her high chair at 5 months old.   What was I thinking?  I was surely in love- but vow to not do that with the next baby.  Lol- to give you an idea- I deleted 15,000 photos.  Embarrassing to admit.  And I have no idea how many are still left, but seriously tons. But now I am all up and running on my new computer!  And loving it! 

So the other day, I had my gestational diabetes test done and drank the sweet, but unpleasant drink and was sitting on my new computer blogging about Christmas when about half an hour into waiting to get my blood drawn- I went all loopy: slurred speech, blurred vision, hot, etc… two ladies basically carried me to the back to a bed and when I recovered, got home- go to finish my blog post, which was almost done, it was no where to be found.  Dang.  Now I am redoing it all.  I guess I can’t skip my Christmas post!  It was wonderful this year and it was Lola’s last year as the only child- So here I go again…

First, Lola was great!  She took it all in and really enjoyed it.  Santa was very intriguing to her and despite no Santa picture (I didn’t push it) she still believed.  She knew he was coming on Christmas Eve, but wanted us to reassure her that she wouldn’t see him.  Haha- Christmas morning she woke up and yelled “We need to run to the den!”  She remembered Santa should have left out presents! How cute is that!?

Christmas Eve-Eve or Christmas Adam as Clay refers to it we spent the day with Gram and Popper.  It’s our tradition and works wonderfully.  No other commitments that day and was quite relaxing.  Lola enjoyed every bit of it too.  She did wonderful with opening gifts- she would open one and play with it for awhile then open another… worked great and was fun to see her enjoy each gift as she went.  I always like to do the same thing too! Clay and I got quite spoiled too and I was excited to get a bunch of fun new sewing toys, although Lola thought a few of them were really hers! :)

One of my favs is the car seat Lola got for her dolls along with pajama set for Sid and May- her AG twin babies.  She loves changing their outfits for day and night.  I think she will love this car seat even more when she sees me toting one around all the time… now she can match momma!  She is seriously the cutest little momma… I have to say, I think we are two peas in a pod.

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So Lola opens our family gift and immediately LOVED it… not for sure why it grabbed her so, but she made Clay and I get dressed along with her in our matching pajamas.  We had a great laugh and took a family picture.  Maybe our only family picture this Christmas… We look so silly.  But I think it goes down as a classic.  Next year, Clay and I are buying his parents matching pajamas ;)  Oh and I am in Clay’s shirt and he is in mine… had a bump in the way and my pants aren’t pulled up.  Haha-


After awhile, Lola spotted her cute stocking and had to open it… just like her momma… which meant I got to open mine too!  She is still wearing her pajamas and added a hat Debbie has had since she was born.

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Lola got some cool sewing boards so she can sew like her momma!  Looks like Lola is showing Gram how to do it in this picture!


Even Clay got into the sewing boards.  Lola is quite good at it too!  No surprise to us though! She also got some fruits and vegetables for her kitchen!  She enjoyed learning which each one is called, considering she doesn’t eat vegetables!  Just like her mother- Miss. Picky Eater.

Lola also got princess dress up clothes, a matching book and a cute suitcase.  She loves changing into all that outfits, but the girl has got to learn to play in each one for a bit before bringing me the next one! Haha-


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She kept turning Gram and Popper into Frogs… I think she is overlapping the concept of princess and fairies.

Love this picture of Lola, Popper and Gram.   Thank y’all for a wonderful 2011 Christmas!  119

So the next day, Christmas Eve we go to Sandy and Mikes (Clay’s Aunt and Uncle) for a little while to see the Travis’ and Gran and Papa. Lola wore everyone out playing hide and seek!  She warmed up faster being that she saw everyone during Thanksgiving too.  We headed out from there to let Lola rest up so we could go to my side that night. Lola had to last longer than her usual 6:30-ish time limit. 

After a quick rest up, we headed to Nonna and Ba’s.  This year we actually didn’t have the annual party, but just kept it in the family.  It was nice to go there and relax for the second day in a row and eat some good food.  Chicken-and-dumplings just for me!  :)  Siblings started a new tradition this year of vintage or homemade gifts ($10 or less) so we exchanged those gifts that night and saved the rest for the next morning.

I made Nick a scarf and got him a “vintage inspired” hat which I have to say ended up being a good move because he wears it all the time.  Haha- Clay did separate gifts and he got Nick depression glass and it’s a plate… IDK- something they read about in GQ.  Oh boys.

Kebby I made a bunting out of vintage lace doilies all from the family.   Also got her a silly shower cap, but they are so nice to have people.  Clay got her a cool vintage compact mirror.  Nice.

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Nick got Clay a meaningful gift of a Canton picture to represent their run to Canton. And Kebby thrifted Clay a cool skinny tie. I started slowing down on pics- but got Dad a cool hat too:

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Maw-Maw and Paw-Paw got in on the vintage gift ideas too!


Mom picked us all out some cool vintage finds as well and of course mine were sewing related!  Eeek! :)

Nonna took Lola shopping for me and Clay and it sounds like a pretty funny little outing- but she was super excited to give us our gifts that she picked out and wrapped and couldn’t keep the secret because I knew what mine was a couple weeks before Christmas ;)  She did a great job picking out our gifts!


048After a rowdy night on Lola’s behalf, it was time to head home and get ready for Santa to come and go to bed! Lola surprising stayed awake all the way home and we set out cookies and water (Lola’s choice) for Santa and off to bed she went.  Clay and I enjoyed a peaceful Christmas Eve Night and were excited to see how the morning played out.  Remember Lola was soooo sick last year?  We had some making up to do! And that we did.

I’ll add this picture and I’ll regret it.  This is me Christmas Eve night:

Christmas morning Santa had all kinds of surprises for everyone!

Lola has loved her easel that comes with a roll of paper which is awesome! She loves her pink guitar, loves her baby crib with storage underneath, her kitchen toys, her trains, her dinosaurs, and farm.  Geeze she must have been really good in 2011! Santa didn’t hold back.  I know he tried so hard to hold back though. 


Playing with farm animals and checking out the train:

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Lola just found her big sister book in the crib cabinet!


Lola was excited to open outfits for Baby Sawyer.  Now all 3 of her AG babies have a change of clothes… can’t wait to add more though!  Glad she loves it as much as me! Lola got slippers in her stocking and loved them… she thought they gave her jumping powers… wish I would have thought to tell her that!

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Lola showing off her toys to her handsome daddy on Christmas morning… our sweet little family.


Her stocking had dinosaur masks in them and they were quite the hit!


Lola had a special gift for daddy which he got a kick out of: TV screen cleaner because he comes home from work to find someone’s little fingerprints on the TV. 

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Clay surprised me over and over with all kinds of fun things including a rug for the nursery that he picked out, my computer, maternity clothes, shoes- he did GREAT! It was a wonderful morning- but I started to get pretty hungry and was ready to head to Nonna and Ba’s for a late breakfast.  Yum.  And it was good. And I didn’t have to cook- so I helped clean.

We opened gifts but stockings first and mom made these special stockings a couple years ago since we both love stockings so much… and they still overflow.  Haha-

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Lola is now a PRO at opening gifts!


And I have to say- grandparents did great on gifts this year… didn’t go overboard and nothing too big considering her room is crazy full…

Love this picture and notice their shoes?  Lola asked Nonna for a bus and sparkly Toms.

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Oddly enough my picture taking stopped mid opening- I guess that meant I was opening mine!  Haha- probably going through my stocking! My gift from my parents this year was the Silhouette Cameo!  Super exciting and was fun to get because it’s one of those things I would never buy myself but can fully enjoy knowing someone else bought it for me! :) My dad also surprised us girls (minus Lola) with diamond earrings.  I love mine!  The backs screw on and make them very comfortable so I can just leave them on. Can’t believe I didn’t take any other pictures the rest of the day!  Haha- I do have a habit of checking out lately… blame it all on the pregnancy.  12 weeks to go people!  And yes I am counting down!

So we thank everyone for such a great Christmas this year and am so thankful Lola felt great and we all got to enjoy every second.  The most classic moment this Christmas might have been when dad shared the Christmas story with us though and Nick used Lola’s Fisher Price Little People Nativity Scene to act it out for Lola’s sake- but dad was trying to explain to Lola how Mary was ready to have her baby (pregnant like momma) and so Nick laid down Mary in the stable and if you are familiar with FP Little People at all, they have a huge open hole in the bottom of them… and mom and I saw it and died laughing because ready she was- fully dilated!  Then Nick saw and we all couldn’t stop laughing… everyone joined in and even Lola laughed and finally asked “what’s so funny guys?”  Haha!  Merry Christmas and I believe Jesus may even have laughed a little over that.

Here are some videos: some are longer but I’ll enjoy watching these each year, especially whens she’s all grown up!

We tried to talk to Lola on the way to Nonna and Ba’s about Christmas morning but she seemed a bit distracted by her own thoughts.

Lola on Christmas morning!

Lola waiting on Clay so we could run to the den to see what Santa brought! (This video wouldn’t upload after several attempts… so am posting without it which makes me sad.  Going to try to upload it to it’s own post.)

Really cute but short video.  Her response was funny to me.

Wow- that was exhausting.  :) New post to come about baby and nursery! Yay!




Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Silent Reader, yet another crazy video for you…


From all of us… but mostly my brother. ;)